Category: love

“If you change the way you look at things…”

by startoverevie, posted in 2020, dear me, life, love, Purpose, Wayne Dyer

I could provably leave this post with this image and keep it moving. I’ve been thinking about this quote so much. Every time I repeat it, multiple experiences, relationships, things, food etc. come to mind. I have either experienced exactly this once I looked at them differently, or I realize that if I would have changed the way I looked at them, the situation would have changed, and the experience would have been a more positive one.

For the rest of this week I want to put this into practice, activel and intentionally. Because there is something amazingly powerful in this statement; better yet this statement is empowering, because the power to change we look at things lies within you and me.

IF I CHANGE THE WAY I LOOK AT THINGS
THE THINGS I LOOK AT CHANGE… -Wayne Dyer

#changethewayyoulookatthings #waynedyer #inspiration

Living Judgement Free (is hard!)

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, Growth, life, love, Purpose

Have you ever been intentional about not judging? Not judging yourself or other people? That has been my goal this week and OMG, I never thought about how much I judge. I judge people on TV, I judge other drivers, leaders, family, and of course myself.

As I was getting ready to write this post, I decided to look up the dictionary definition of “Judgement” and this is what it says:
“the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions.” For the word “Judgemental” we get a very explicit definition of what I’m always doing:
“Having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.” I am this person… maybe not as bad as others, but judgemental I am.

My goal this week is to be very aware of my reaction to others and myself in terms of judgement. I want to be judgement free as a whole. Is it possible? We will see.

In the meantime, please don’t judge me 🙂

Everything is perfect

by startoverevie, posted in dear me, Happiness, life, love, Perfect, Thankful

Why not accept things, and experience for what they are? Everything that happens to and around us is perfect just as it is. Even if it’s horrible, it’s something that for a mysterious reason had to happen, and even that is perfect. One day in the future you and I may discover the reasons for the bad, in the meantime, we must continue to remember that everything is perfect as is.

We should accept and appreciate everything, everyone and every moment. Acceptance and appreciation allows us to have a light heart and spirit, experiencing it will fill us with joy. We must choose to think of this moment just as it is, is absolutely perfect. Right now YOU ARE PERFECT.

Hello 2020!

by startoverevie, posted in 2020, family, life, love, marriage

“The important thing is not where we stand, but in what direction we move”
(johann wolfgang von goeth)

Dear 2020,

Just wanted to say, welcome. I was a bit bitter about how fast 2019 went by, but as I reflect on the year that just passed I realize that so much has happened that the speed in which it went by is irrelevant. Slow or fast, time still passes by. So, here you are, and I embrace you with optimism and excitement. I am committing to walk in pure love, first for myself, by accepting me just as I am, and not spending too much or better yet any energy in the past and things that have happened in the past. Also, I do not want to worry about the future. This will take time to master, but the now is where I need to be. Like right now, in this moment as I type these words, I type them thinking of how precious this moment is. My boys sleeping, my husband showering, the washing machine just finished the cycle, and I am here now, present. I want to remember that I am a divine creation of God, when I feel separate from him I feel incomplete. Your my friend 2020 will walk with me every moment of my life this year, and I will enjoy you “live” in the moment. I am living in gratitude for the good and the bad as I know they are in perfect harmony of what should be. I believe that I am able to live in my purpose, and that I will see my vision of that come true very soon. My three words for this year are “Change, Alignment & Power”.

CHANGE, because I must embrace the truth that I am able to change and to get better or improve all that I determine needs improvement in me and my life.

ALIGNMENT, because I need to align my daily experience as a human being that is present with my most profound values and principles. When I think of this word I imagine a feeling of comfort and truth.

POWER, because I must carry with me the believe that I was created in the image of God, and my creator he put in me everything that I possibly need to achieve my highest potential. That within me I have an unlimited source of power, because my power source is the Lord.

Well my new friend 2020, again, I welcome you in my life with open arms. I can’t wait to see what the days will bring ,not just for me and my human experience, but for my children that are most dearest to me and my biggest challenge and responsibility, and for my husband, who I share my life with and who represents unconditional love, a love that with you this year I will accept as is and will nurture so that I can experience the growth that happens when love is nurtured. Looking forward to this unique experience that will only happen one time, because our days are numbered, 365 to be exact.

Sincerely,

Evie

#2020 #embracethenow #thepowerofnow #change #alignment #power

Being “Mami”

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, family, life, love

I’m spend 85% of my time with my boys, except for the 3 hours a day Monday – Friday that they are in summer camp, I am always with them. They are 3 & 4 years old, so most of my day consists of responding to all of their “mami” requests. Mami I’m hungry, mami I don’t want that, mami it hurts, mami he hurt me, mami it’s not working, mamiiiiiiii. And yes it is mami because we are hispanic :-).

But, I can’t imagine a sweeter sound than that of my boys, specially when they call me name. They also come over and give me hugs and kisses and say they love me. So, at the end of the day, being “mami” is the biggest blessing I could have ever imagined.

So much to talk about, but nothing to say

by startoverevie, posted in family, life, love, marriage

I have so much that I could write about/talk about, but some how I feel like I have nothing to say. Crazy talk right?

Summary:

Divorce is imminent .

My heart is in a state of mourning, like when someone is diagnosed with a deadly illness.

Nothing worst than being in a relationship with someone that doesn’t talk or process any of the significant events of life. It’s a very lonely relationship, and break up.

Sad for my boys.

Sad for me.

Scared of how I will be able to financially sustain them.

Holding on to my faith in God. I know he will provide.

Good night.

Not perfect? It’s ok…

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, love

Dear self,

Just want to take a moment to let you know that it is ok for you not to meet the goals you set for yourself the way you originally planned. It is ok that you tried, and that you put an effort in trying to make your life better. It is ok to be confused, it is ok to question your decisions, it is ok to be a little messy. It is ok if you didn’t do it the way you had originally planned. Whatever the reasons are for not being able to achieve it as planned, just use those to do it better next time. Give yourself credit for trying, and above all things never forget that I love you. Don’t quit, keep trying, stay committed. Remember every day gives you a chance to start over and to do it better.

Love,

Me

Let’s talk relationships

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, family, love, marriage

Today I heard the best quote I’ve heard in a while regarding relationship in particular marriage. It goes like this:

“When you are fighting, it’s not me vs. you, it’s US against the problem”. -Jay Shetty

I mean, you know that this is something that rarely anyone thinks of in this way. But I really took this to heart because I know for a fact that if when having a disagreement or dealing with a problem my husband and I would think of it this way, it would all work out much better at the end. Just saying.