Living Judgement Free (is hard!)

Have you ever been intentional about not judging? Not judging yourself or other people? That has been my goal this week and OMG, I never thought about how much I judge. I judge people on TV, I judge other drivers, leaders, family, and of course myself.

As I was getting ready to write this post, I decided to look up the dictionary definition of “Judgement” and this is what it says:
“the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions.” For the word “Judgemental” we get a very explicit definition of what I’m always doing:
“Having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.” I am this person… maybe not as bad as others, but judgemental I am.

My goal this week is to be very aware of my reaction to others and myself in terms of judgement. I want to be judgement free as a whole. Is it possible? We will see.

In the meantime, please don’t judge me 🙂

Purpose…

In my “purpose” I want to live.

I am on my way to achieving my dream and because I’m clear about what my purpose in life is my journey towards achieving that dream is much easier. My life’s purpose is to use the time I spend with people, in particular young people, and plant a seed of hope, and for those that have the seed already planted, I want to water them each time the need arises. I want to motivate and encourage people to look at how truly valuable they are and to understand that their existence in love makes this a better world to live in. Ultimately I want to teach that we have within us everything we ever need to push forward and push through to the other side to live each day in our “purpose”.

Have you figured out what your purpose is? Here are some quotes, images and resources to get you just a little closer and hopefully help you arrive upon that great responsibility we have as human beings which is to figure out our purpose and to live in it.

Blog: Milewalk
How to Figure Out Your Purpose in 600 Words


Blog: Jackcanfield, Maximizing Your Potential
10 LIFE PURPOSE TIPS TO HELP YOU FIND YOUR PASSION

Quotes:

“To think what is true, to sense what is beautiful and to want what is good, hereby the spirit finds purpose of a life in reason.”
― Johann Gottfried Herder

“Life is not discovery of fate; it is continuous creation of future, through choices of thoughts, feelings and actions in the present.” —Sanjay Sahay

“Finding the best thing to do with your life truly is as simple as finding what you love
Finding what you are good at and pursuing it with a passion” – Jack Canfield

Everything is perfect

Why not accept things, and experience for what they are? Everything that happens to and around us is perfect just as it is. Even if it’s horrible, it’s something that for a mysterious reason had to happen, and even that is perfect. One day in the future you and I may discover the reasons for the bad, in the meantime, we must continue to remember that everything is perfect as is.

We should accept and appreciate everything, everyone and every moment. Acceptance and appreciation allows us to have a light heart and spirit, experiencing it will fill us with joy. We must choose to think of this moment just as it is, is absolutely perfect. Right now YOU ARE PERFECT.

The Way to Happiness

“There is NO WAY to happiness, HAPPINESS IS THE WAY” -Wayne Dyer

Talk about an “aha” moment. When I read the quote above it was like a light bulb came on. We live our lives searching for happiness, for things to make us happy, for people to make us happy, for our situations to make us happy, for our jobs to make us happy, basically searching for it everywhere but inside of us. We search and search for something that is with us at all times, without realizing that all we have to do is call upon it, declare it and it will be. We can choose happiness, and with that choice we can live every day and every moment of our live walking in happiness.

Quotes on happiness:

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
― Albert Camus

“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
― Buddha

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
―  Oscar Wilde

Hello 2020!

“The important thing is not where we stand, but in what direction we move”
(johann wolfgang von goeth)

Dear 2020,

Just wanted to say, welcome. I was a bit bitter about how fast 2019 went by, but as I reflect on the year that just passed I realize that so much has happened that the speed in which it went by is irrelevant. Slow or fast, time still passes by. So, here you are, and I embrace you with optimism and excitement. I am committing to walk in pure love, first for myself, by accepting me just as I am, and not spending too much or better yet any energy in the past and things that have happened in the past. Also, I do not want to worry about the future. This will take time to master, but the now is where I need to be. Like right now, in this moment as I type these words, I type them thinking of how precious this moment is. My boys sleeping, my husband showering, the washing machine just finished the cycle, and I am here now, present. I want to remember that I am a divine creation of God, when I feel separate from him I feel incomplete. Your my friend 2020 will walk with me every moment of my life this year, and I will enjoy you “live” in the moment. I am living in gratitude for the good and the bad as I know they are in perfect harmony of what should be. I believe that I am able to live in my purpose, and that I will see my vision of that come true very soon. My three words for this year are “Change, Alignment & Power”.

CHANGE, because I must embrace the truth that I am able to change and to get better or improve all that I determine needs improvement in me and my life.

ALIGNMENT, because I need to align my daily experience as a human being that is present with my most profound values and principles. When I think of this word I imagine a feeling of comfort and truth.

POWER, because I must carry with me the believe that I was created in the image of God, and my creator he put in me everything that I possibly need to achieve my highest potential. That within me I have an unlimited source of power, because my power source is the Lord.

Well my new friend 2020, again, I welcome you in my life with open arms. I can’t wait to see what the days will bring ,not just for me and my human experience, but for my children that are most dearest to me and my biggest challenge and responsibility, and for my husband, who I share my life with and who represents unconditional love, a love that with you this year I will accept as is and will nurture so that I can experience the growth that happens when love is nurtured. Looking forward to this unique experience that will only happen one time, because our days are numbered, 365 to be exact.

Sincerely,

Evie

#2020 #embracethenow #thepowerofnow #change #alignment #power

Thank you 2019!

Oh wow, this is it! The last day of 2019, December 31! What a year this has been, for all of us I know for sure, we’ve had ups, and we’ve had downs. Some of us have had these in different proportions but nevertheless we have lived through them because here we are. Right now I just want to say THANK YOU 2019. A lot has happened this year for myself and my family and I’m greatful for it all. Greatful for the good, thankful for the bad, because all together it makes me who I am today.

My children are growing and are healthy overall. I hear laughter and fights between my boys, and though it stresses me out sometimes, I’m still very very grateful for that noise. The hubbie sometimes annoys me, but when we are together as a family, it all makes perfect sense.

Today I will enjoy and continue reflecting on my experiences this year. It’s been a year of transitions, it’s been a year of new beginnings, and again, for that I AM GRATEFUL.

#grateful #thankful #2019 #joyful

Girl…Don't Take Anything Personally

The Second of the Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz is “Don’t take anything personally”. Such a simple rule, and so easily broken. I have a friend that every time I start to discuss a topic with, don’t matter what the topic is, somehow she finds a way of reflecting it on herself, and almost always without skipping a bit my response to that is, “Girl everything is not always about you, you ain’t that important”… it’s meant to be a joke, but sometimes, it’s more true than not.

It’s so easy to use others as examples for the rules and principles we want (I) want to live by, but, I very often struggle with this one. Why? Well here’s the thing, it’s easy to think that I’m not taking “it” personally when I’m conscious, but honestly, at an unconscious level I’ve noticed that I do take many things personally. I take it personally when I get home and my husband night after night will not clean up after the kids, or get dinner started. I look at that as a war against me, but I know in the deepest part of me that it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with him “not feeling” like doing anything when he gets home from work. Or when my co-worker continues to turn anything that I do to make my work productive and effective as a war against him, because he refuses to do anything more that what is absolutely necessary to do in the moment. The way he feels has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with him and his insecurities. I’m sure I can find tons of examples where any of us can make the things that happen around us personally. Here are a few pointers to remember in order to make this agreement automatic for us:

  1. Nothing others do is because of you.
  2. What others say and do is a projection of their own “dream” (life)
  3. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

“If we didn’t agree, the things that others say would not affect us emotionally. If we did not care about what others think about us, their works or behaviour could not affect us”

*Ref: Human Potential Unlimited, Inc. (www.humanpotentialunlimited.com)