Category: life

“If you change the way you look at things…”

by startoverevie, posted in 2020, dear me, life, love, Purpose, Wayne Dyer

I could provably leave this post with this image and keep it moving. I’ve been thinking about this quote so much. Every time I repeat it, multiple experiences, relationships, things, food etc. come to mind. I have either experienced exactly this once I looked at them differently, or I realize that if I would have changed the way I looked at them, the situation would have changed, and the experience would have been a more positive one.

For the rest of this week I want to put this into practice, activel and intentionally. Because there is something amazingly powerful in this statement; better yet this statement is empowering, because the power to change we look at things lies within you and me.

IF I CHANGE THE WAY I LOOK AT THINGS
THE THINGS I LOOK AT CHANGE… -Wayne Dyer

#changethewayyoulookatthings #waynedyer #inspiration

Living Judgement Free (is hard!)

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, Growth, life, love, Purpose

Have you ever been intentional about not judging? Not judging yourself or other people? That has been my goal this week and OMG, I never thought about how much I judge. I judge people on TV, I judge other drivers, leaders, family, and of course myself.

As I was getting ready to write this post, I decided to look up the dictionary definition of “Judgement” and this is what it says:
“the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions.” For the word “Judgemental” we get a very explicit definition of what I’m always doing:
“Having or displaying an excessively critical point of view.” I am this person… maybe not as bad as others, but judgemental I am.

My goal this week is to be very aware of my reaction to others and myself in terms of judgement. I want to be judgement free as a whole. Is it possible? We will see.

In the meantime, please don’t judge me 🙂

Purpose…

by startoverevie, posted in Growth, life, Purpose

In my “purpose” I want to live.

I am on my way to achieving my dream and because I’m clear about what my purpose in life is my journey towards achieving that dream is much easier. My life’s purpose is to use the time I spend with people, in particular young people, and plant a seed of hope, and for those that have the seed already planted, I want to water them each time the need arises. I want to motivate and encourage people to look at how truly valuable they are and to understand that their existence in love makes this a better world to live in. Ultimately I want to teach that we have within us everything we ever need to push forward and push through to the other side to live each day in our “purpose”.

Have you figured out what your purpose is? Here are some quotes, images and resources to get you just a little closer and hopefully help you arrive upon that great responsibility we have as human beings which is to figure out our purpose and to live in it.

Blog: Milewalk
How to Figure Out Your Purpose in 600 Words


Blog: Jackcanfield, Maximizing Your Potential
10 LIFE PURPOSE TIPS TO HELP YOU FIND YOUR PASSION

Quotes:

“To think what is true, to sense what is beautiful and to want what is good, hereby the spirit finds purpose of a life in reason.”
― Johann Gottfried Herder

“Life is not discovery of fate; it is continuous creation of future, through choices of thoughts, feelings and actions in the present.” —Sanjay Sahay

“Finding the best thing to do with your life truly is as simple as finding what you love
Finding what you are good at and pursuing it with a passion” – Jack Canfield

Everything is perfect

by startoverevie, posted in dear me, Happiness, life, love, Perfect, Thankful

Why not accept things, and experience for what they are? Everything that happens to and around us is perfect just as it is. Even if it’s horrible, it’s something that for a mysterious reason had to happen, and even that is perfect. One day in the future you and I may discover the reasons for the bad, in the meantime, we must continue to remember that everything is perfect as is.

We should accept and appreciate everything, everyone and every moment. Acceptance and appreciation allows us to have a light heart and spirit, experiencing it will fill us with joy. We must choose to think of this moment just as it is, is absolutely perfect. Right now YOU ARE PERFECT.

The Way to Happiness

by startoverevie, posted in dear me, Happiness, life, Wayne Dyer
“There is NO WAY to happiness, HAPPINESS IS THE WAY” -Wayne Dyer

Talk about an “aha” moment. When I read the quote above it was like a light bulb came on. We live our lives searching for happiness, for things to make us happy, for people to make us happy, for our situations to make us happy, for our jobs to make us happy, basically searching for it everywhere but inside of us. We search and search for something that is with us at all times, without realizing that all we have to do is call upon it, declare it and it will be. We can choose happiness, and with that choice we can live every day and every moment of our live walking in happiness.

Quotes on happiness:

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”
― Albert Camus

“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.”
― Buddha

“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go.”
―  Oscar Wilde

Hello 2020!

by startoverevie, posted in 2020, family, life, love, marriage

“The important thing is not where we stand, but in what direction we move”
(johann wolfgang von goeth)

Dear 2020,

Just wanted to say, welcome. I was a bit bitter about how fast 2019 went by, but as I reflect on the year that just passed I realize that so much has happened that the speed in which it went by is irrelevant. Slow or fast, time still passes by. So, here you are, and I embrace you with optimism and excitement. I am committing to walk in pure love, first for myself, by accepting me just as I am, and not spending too much or better yet any energy in the past and things that have happened in the past. Also, I do not want to worry about the future. This will take time to master, but the now is where I need to be. Like right now, in this moment as I type these words, I type them thinking of how precious this moment is. My boys sleeping, my husband showering, the washing machine just finished the cycle, and I am here now, present. I want to remember that I am a divine creation of God, when I feel separate from him I feel incomplete. Your my friend 2020 will walk with me every moment of my life this year, and I will enjoy you “live” in the moment. I am living in gratitude for the good and the bad as I know they are in perfect harmony of what should be. I believe that I am able to live in my purpose, and that I will see my vision of that come true very soon. My three words for this year are “Change, Alignment & Power”.

CHANGE, because I must embrace the truth that I am able to change and to get better or improve all that I determine needs improvement in me and my life.

ALIGNMENT, because I need to align my daily experience as a human being that is present with my most profound values and principles. When I think of this word I imagine a feeling of comfort and truth.

POWER, because I must carry with me the believe that I was created in the image of God, and my creator he put in me everything that I possibly need to achieve my highest potential. That within me I have an unlimited source of power, because my power source is the Lord.

Well my new friend 2020, again, I welcome you in my life with open arms. I can’t wait to see what the days will bring ,not just for me and my human experience, but for my children that are most dearest to me and my biggest challenge and responsibility, and for my husband, who I share my life with and who represents unconditional love, a love that with you this year I will accept as is and will nurture so that I can experience the growth that happens when love is nurtured. Looking forward to this unique experience that will only happen one time, because our days are numbered, 365 to be exact.

Sincerely,

Evie

#2020 #embracethenow #thepowerofnow #change #alignment #power

Be Impeccable with your Word

by startoverevie, posted in Books, life, The Four Agreements

From the book: “The Four Agreements”

I read this book about 6 years ago. Simple principles of life, that can easily be incorporated in every day life. I came accross the notes I had, and realized that I really did forget all I learned from these four basic principles.

The first “Be impeccable with your word” basically means:

  • Speak with integrity
  • Say only what you mean
  • Avoid using words to speak against yourself
  • Avoid using words to speak against others
  • Use the power of your word for truth and encouragement

It’s interesting to me that whenever I find myself in a situation that goes against the above list, I feel it in my gut. I know that I’m going agaisnt a core believe. The question is why do I get to that point? I think the answer is not being fully present, and concious of my words and actions. Since I know the problem, I now wonder what could be the solution. Should I give myself time to stop and think before I talk? Should I tell others that I don’t want to talk about other people and have them stop me when I do? I’m not quite sure, but this is something that I will continue to explore this week, and hopefully I can find an everyday / every moment strategy so that I can honor this. When I do, I will return to this post and update it 🙂

May this moment be better than the moment prior to this.

Say onto yourself “Peace be Still”

by startoverevie, posted in dear me, family, life, marriage

Not doing what I said I would do gets to me real bad, real hard. So hard that I disappear, and try to forget what I wanted, but at the end, it all comes back. Much has happened since I was last here. But interestingly I have news for you, great news! I have been starting over every single day!!! Ok ok, I know that’s not exactly “news” but it’s my way of coming back saying, “you see, I’ve kept up with my theme” (*wink).

Here’s the thing, in life you can go in one of two ways on this topic… You can choose to start over, or life will find a way of making you start over. And that is what my intention is when I write in this blog. I am reminding myself that I’m starting over on my terms.

Life has changed drastically. Last I wrote I was on the verge of a divorce, today, we are stronger than ever as a family, and truly found a middle ground to start over.

I’m closing with this reminder to self:

“Self Control is Strength
Right Thought is Mastery
Calmness is Power
Say onto yourself Peace be Still” (James Allen – As a man thinketh)

Being “Mami”

by startoverevie, posted in COMMITMENT, family, life, love

I’m spend 85% of my time with my boys, except for the 3 hours a day Monday – Friday that they are in summer camp, I am always with them. They are 3 & 4 years old, so most of my day consists of responding to all of their “mami” requests. Mami I’m hungry, mami I don’t want that, mami it hurts, mami he hurt me, mami it’s not working, mamiiiiiiii. And yes it is mami because we are hispanic :-).

But, I can’t imagine a sweeter sound than that of my boys, specially when they call me name. They also come over and give me hugs and kisses and say they love me. So, at the end of the day, being “mami” is the biggest blessing I could have ever imagined.

So much to talk about, but nothing to say

by startoverevie, posted in family, life, love, marriage

I have so much that I could write about/talk about, but some how I feel like I have nothing to say. Crazy talk right?

Summary:

Divorce is imminent .

My heart is in a state of mourning, like when someone is diagnosed with a deadly illness.

Nothing worst than being in a relationship with someone that doesn’t talk or process any of the significant events of life. It’s a very lonely relationship, and break up.

Sad for my boys.

Sad for me.

Scared of how I will be able to financially sustain them.

Holding on to my faith in God. I know he will provide.

Good night.